About Deniz Mehmet – Addiction Hypnotherapist & Recovery Coach
Finding cannabis at the age of 13 was the game changer for me. That’s when my love for the high began. A journey with addiction that would last 20 years. My life revolved around it and as a result, it shaped my world and who I was within it.
Like most, I functioned in the world as an addict but at nowhere near my full potential. Any job I had, I was barely making ends meet. Time had moved forward, but I hadn’t. My health wasn’t great, my self-confidence was at an all-time low and my family was just about tolerating me.
To be honest, I was a mess but I also knew that I was capable of more. Denial and escapism had, however, become an automatic function within my brain. I secretly hated my situation but I just couldn’t change. I was too proud to seek help and as a result, just acted like my lifestyle was by choice. Every now and then I attempted a public change but failed miserably. I tried the gym, expensive coaching programs, and motivational books but, nothing worked. There were times I thought I was destined to stay an addict. I was born with some kind of addict gene or loser gene and that was it. In the end, it was through Cognitive Hypnotherapy that I eventually learned why those coaching programs and books didn’t help me. Although they provide a great program for change, they missed a couple of vital bits of information – why I was the way I was, and why I couldn’t change.
By my mid-teens, I was smoking cannabis like cigarettes. By my early 20s, I was doing my fair share of other substances too. Alcohol, E, Cannabis, and even the odd Shroom were keeping my brain locked in a constant state of repair. By this time cannabis had turned on me and I was on the verge of real psychological problems. I already had friends who had experienced problems because of constant cannabis use and I felt close to it too. I would literally put crumbs into a spliff and still get mangled. Every time I smoked a spliff, it was like I became a prisoner in my own mind.
Quitting The Addiction Without Treating It…
By my late twenties, I was finally able to quit cannabis. That was a big day for me. Sadly it was short-lived because soon after, my addictive disposition was introduced to the white stuff. Even though I never really enjoyed cocaine, I still got stuck there for a few years. My brain was wired for artificial boosts and now I had one that provided serious amounts of dopamine. How else was I going to distract myself from the uphill struggle of repairing my life?
My Rock Bottom
I was living in a cold, dark, little flat with a train line 3 meters outside my back window and completely broke. It was 6 am on a Wednesday morning and I was home alone, two grams in. I could hear the guy upstairs shuffling about getting ready for work and the birds outside had started singing (fuckers!). What was I doing? While everyone was getting ready to go out and make their mark on the world, I was standing in front of the mirror, a can of K in one hand and a coco-puff in the other, rehearsing what I would say if I ever bumped into Quentin Tarantino! I shudder at the memory of the comedown that morning, I really do. I struggled badly. That afternoon I was woken up by heart palpitations. It was time to change. The change did come but it came slowly and with a lot of work and sacrifice.
The Change I Had Been Looking For
It was actually through witnessing a dear friend of mine get help to recover from a heavy, twenty-year addiction, by seeing a great Cognitive Hypnotherapist (Hugh Osborne), which first made me pursue a career in Cognitive Hypnotherapy. Witnessing this almost effortless freedom from a twenty-year addiction was enough for me, I had to join the fight. I was lucky enough to train in one of the best schools out there, and under one of the greatest teachers, I could have ever hoped for. The Quest Institute, and Cognitive Hypnotherapy, were founded by Trevor Silvester – a pioneer, a thought leader, and 25-year veteran in the field of Therapy and personal development. I have since, also done training under Hugh Osborne, learning his powerful techniques and becoming certified in his methods. I now have the pleasure of assisting him in his workshops where he teaches other hypnotherapists his methods.
Me After Addiction
Life after addiction has been enlightening (to say the least). Through Cognitive Hypnotherapy, I have been able to reconnect with myself in a way that I never thought was possible. A journey that I am still enjoying today and I hope, never ends. I myself enjoy the therapy and coaching process and am regularly checking in with my own therapists, coaches and mentors. If there is a meaning to life then I’m sure it has something to do with being the best possible version of yourself and living in harmony your core values. This is called alignment and this the life that I strive to live. I also bring this into my practice. Living by your core values is a cornerstone characteristic that not enough people honour. Whether your core values are to work hard and achieve, to be a good Samaritan, to be the best parent you can be, or to be true to a religion, it will take hard work and discipline. If your house is not built on solid cornerstones then it will not be sturdy. My cornerstone values are to always be myself, to honour my personal boundaries, to work hard, to live by my values rather than my desires, to honour God, to love and protect my family, and to be true to my work as an addiction recovery coach.
True, these values may look simple and even similar to what most people would list. This is in fact the list I would have given my whole life. The difference back then was that I wouldn’t act on them. You see, you can’t be anything just because you say you are. Did you know that only 7% of communication is verbal? The other 93% of communication is made up of body language and tone of voice. You have to walk the talk otherwise you are sending yourself the wrong message about who you are. Wouldn’t it hurt if someone called you a liar and a bullshitter? Imagine what it does to you if you unconsciously believe that about yourself.
Like I also experienced in my early recovery, you might be reading this and thinking that you don’t actually really know who you are or what your core values should be. If so, don’t be at all worried or upset by this. This is an exciting time for you because there is a big question waiting to be answered. Who do you want to be? We come to many intersections in life and you are probably at one now and unable to see the path that is waiting for you. I want to help you see it.